Thursday, January 16, 2014
Weddings Weddings and More Weddings
Does it feel like you're constantly going to weddings? Lately, it seems like everyone I know has been getting married. I understand how hard it is to actually go through getting married (I've done it), but now I have to sit through wedding after wedding and come up with things to do so not to be bored. Try not to get lost in thought, but don't go without thought completely. The simplest answer if you're bored at a wedding is to just zone out. This actually works really well, but it definitely shouldn't be done all the time. You don't want your family or friends to know that you're bored, and this will be a dead giveaway. Though, that's not to say that you should never zone out. It's best used sparingly, during times when no one will notice. If you start to get restless in your seat, pull out your cellphone and say you have an important business call. This is an especially great escape device for getting out of having to talk to people you don't like. It will also enable you to stretch your legs while you walk around and look at paintings on the walls or explore the building you're in. Meditation is another great thing to do. This works well when you can't leave your seat. What you do is listen to all the sounds around you. This will include people talking, crying, laughing, sneezing, bells, etc. Listen to them as if you're listening to music until their meaning starts to disappear. It helps if you focus on your breathing. To breathe out, just let the air fall out of you naturally and don't force it. Do the same for inhaling. Let your body naturally start to inhale on its own. Eventually, this will slow your breathing down and your body will become very relaxed. As long as you don't take it too far, you won't zone out. It helps if you realize why you're actually bored. Sometimes you're only bored simply because you're not paying attention. Try turning your attention towards whatever is going on in the ceremony and really listen. Pay attention to every single word that every person is saying. Listen really carefully and you'll develop a greater sense of awareness and will possibly become not bored anymore. Sometimes boredom comes out of hatred. Do you dislike the person who's wedding or event you're at? Think about why you dislike this person. Do you even remember why? Try to purge your hatred and think about all the things you like about them instead. By the end of the ceremony I'm sure you'll feel a lot better and will feel much more comfortable when approaching them to congratulate them or shake their hand or give them a hug. So in the end, if you're really bored, there's probably a very good reason. If you're able to recognize why this is, and more importantly if you're able to correct it, I'm sure you'll turn your boredom into something else and you may even have a good time.